Out of the Shadows, and Into the Light

While the Associated Press story that hit most of the state newspapers was not entirely accurate, at least folks have an opportunity to find out that the case is ongoing, and that girls are still fighting for their reputations. One point of contention is that the writer from the AP gets the cyberbullying wrong. The other side of the suit is accused of cyberbullying, and a PARENT no less. The writer also claims that things were thrown out by the judge that were not. One of the ideals of this blog is to keep things honest and accurate.

Folks, while I have made numerous mistakes in my life, when I make an effort(seen by thousands so far) to tell you the truth, you can be sure that it is to the best of my ability. I am writing for myself mostly, as I have said in prior posts, but also trying to get out information that is otherwise only conjecture and gossip. The information is obtained mostly from sworn, publicly available documents. While I’m certain that no one wanted to go through years of legal battles, it became apparent that with the stance the defendants have taken, it could not have been avoided. One aspect of the AP story that I believe to be the most truth is that the dispute is bitter. Imagine yourselves, if you believe that you and your family have been wronged, defamed, laughed at, belittled, and then ignored. How would you feel? For me, my DNA will not allow me to sit idly by, and take that. I will continue to stand up for what I believe in, regardless if others like it or not. Stay tuned.

Also, for a different perspective please see: www.crivitzschooldistrict.com

Crivitz Ostrich

Why does the ostrich bury its head in the sand? I had the misfortune to attend a Crivitz School Board meeting last week. Public input is at the very beginning, so I had the opportunity to speak, and I took it to remind the board that I’m not happy that they’ve chosen to continue to keep their heads in the sand. I took the time to make copies of the latest (5) page briefs from my daughter’s attorney, as well as the school’s. Not surprisingly they did not have these. How can they claim their heads are not in the sand, when they don’t even have the paperwork that a stranger can get at the Oconto County Courthouse? $1.25 per page for this information, by the way. If anyone wants, please PM me, and I will send to you.

So after I handed out the information to all board members, I relayed to the board my disappointment in how they treat children in Crivitz. I specifically looked at Pat Mans and asked him what they’ve done to help those girls. Did they offer counseling? No. Did they allow teachers to speak with them about the alleged event? No. Did they tell everyone that,indeed, no compromising pictures were ever found to clear up the girls’ reputations? No again! Do you see a pattern readers?

The Crivitz School District administrator went on a witch hunt, prompted by his good pal, and did not even allow witnesses who wanted to come forth to speak. The ostrich does not bury its head in the sand, because it is afraid, it does so to turn its eggs in the nest. The board convenes to a back room(nest) to keep turning things. This is what a couple members are doing, the rest are mushrooms.  Please do not allow them to continue to do this. Don’t be an ostrich! For another perspective, please see: http://www.crivitzschooldistrict.com. Stay tuned.

Selfish

Source: Selfish

Family

Since the idea of doing a blog was not to be : What pissed off Dave today, I want to talk about something extremely positive and life-changing that has happened in almost exactly the last two years. I have 2 completely new families that I am so proud to call my family now! They are hard-working, God-fearing, loving families, that I wouldn’t trade for any. I can call or stop by the families anytime. They are free to do the same. We’re like many typical families, we have fun, we disagree, we kid each other, but in the end, we are there for one another, and like a big brother, I wouldn’t let anything happen to my family.

I remember about 15 years ago, my daughter bringing this spunky little squirt home to play. I know the pictures still exist with one or the other missing teeth. They grew up together, but I never really knew the family much. Later on those two “mean girls” picked up another friend, who loved life and athletics the way those two did. I really didn’t know her mom and dad, but knew the grandparents. 3 girls, 3 separate families, with their own siblings, set of other friends, problems, hobbies, who have united 3 families into one. Having a small family locally, this means so much. I’ve picked up a father and mother figure, a brother, sister, another little sister, and many cousins, aunts, uncles, and so many others. Thank you to you all, and God Bless! Stay tuned.

Selfish

I’m proud of this blog!  I’ve spent an exorbitant amount of time making sure it’s accurate. Don’t want to have Kenny sue me!  Please understand that I’m being selfish. It’s a way to get out my feelings AND the truth. I’m not trying to win or lose a lawsuit. I’m not running for political office. I’ve watched this same regime lose a suit a couple years ago. They put a gag order on it, so no one knows what went on. I want my readers to know what’s going on in real time.

Here’s the number 1 thing you need to know: Those 3 girls were not taking nude pics! End of story. Next, I should’ve ran for school board, even though I didn’t want the job. Evidently, neither did the losing candidate. Additionally,  many of you screwed up in the last election. Please do not repeat !

Lastly, this series of events bothers me, but it does not eat me up. I believe we’ll win! My daughter has already lost. She may have been player of the year in the M&O without Mike in the picture. Here’s why: best passer in the conference, best shooter on the team, rebounder, defender, and could handle the ball. I missed that year and a half as well!  I know, selfish! Stay tuned.

 

This is an Actual Defense?

Folks, as you may have read, the judge in Oconto County requested 5 pages from each side’s attorneys. You all know my child’s defense: there is no actual evidence, they(school & police) badgered the girls to try to get them to confess, did not call parents, didn’t allow for legal counsel  , didn’t follow own rules, etc. I want to give you some actual quotes from the defense side. This is almost absurd in my opinion. “A public high school functions more like students’ parents (in loco parentis) than their contractual partner. ” Why then, sign a contract, only to have the school completely disregard it? Why draw up a contract, and then say that it’s not really one. We have to hold up our side, but THEY do not?! Make any sense?

Here’s a doozy: “Also, two of the Plaintiffs did not follow the procedure in the purported contracts by appealing.” The one girl did, and as we had been told the staff did not have an opportunity to vote like the rest of us, which is anonymously. This caused some of them to be afraid for their jobs. Now the defense refers to a “purported contract”. Which one is it Crivitz School District? The girls didn’t do anything wrong, if in fact, there was no contract. You cannot have it both ways.

Another defense you may enjoy is their assertion that: “Kam did nothing wrong by removing a Facebook post shortly after the incident.” That’s interesting, since she was told to do so. It is also of note, that it’s ok to defame others, as long as you remove it afterwards. Also ,  if you’ve done nothing wrong, why remove? ????? If you have been a mushroom , and been in the dark, these actual quotes by the school’s attorneys, should shed some light on it for you! Stay tuned.

Courage??

As I read the front page of the Peshtigo Times this week I saw something that blew me away! Here is what was attributed to Pat Mans by the writer: “he (Pat) wants the public to fully understand the case against Sophia. He said because Sophia had the courage to tell her parents about something that happened to her, and her parents had the courage to report it to school authorities, she was sued.” Really Pat? It’s courageous to lie? Is it courageous that YOU have relentlessly pursued 3 young students, disregarded YOUR handbook, didn’t call parents, and grilled those kids for hours???? Was it courageous to call the police when you had no real reason to? Is that courageous Pat?

Is it courage on your part to not properly investigate this? You wouldn’t even allow witnesses for my daughter. You have no proof. I told you to show me ANY picture. 2 years later you have none. How can you sleep at night? Do you have a conscience? Courage is putting your life on the line for your country. Courage is battling a disease. Courage is doing the right thing.

I have the feeling that before this is over, you’ll find out exactly what courage means!

 

Stay tuned.

Bullying

A Facebook friend accused me of bullying yesterday after I relayed a story that my brother Jeff asked me to. He told a friend of his that he boycotts the Crivitz Pharmacy, because of their active involvement in my daughter’s lawsuit. I said that I go to Walgreen’s, and I like them. I did not say that people should not do business there! Folks, it’s your money, spend it where you want. I do believe that my family and I can spend ours where we want. So many times on the internet I’ve seen people say they won’t do business with a certain store, restaurant, etc., but when I do it’s bullying???

Let me give you a couple examples of ACTUAL bullying. How about the wife of that business owner talking behind one of the girls’ backs, and almost getting her fired? How about her dad poking someone in the chest after a school board meeting? Is that maybe actual bullying? What about what this family has done to mine, and how they glare at us in court proceedings, and then laugh in our face????? How about 20 pages on Facebook of lies and hatred toward 3 teenage girls? When you’ve walked in mine or my daughter’s shoes, then tell me about bullying! Get real!! Stay tuned.

We’re Not Just in Wisconsin Anymore

I have received positive comments from all over the country. Only one negative so far, but frequent readers know who that is! I found one comment particularly interesting, and I will quote it verbatim. A frequent reader of the blog shared this with me, “I received some insight last night from a relative who lives in the Minneapolis area and works for a small college. This thing with our school board is not going unnoticed by colleges. It reflects badly on graduating students as to the corruption and lack of integrity of our district as a whole.” That statement speaks volumes. Unfortunately, as I’ve said in the past, our school has become a laughingstock. The people involved on the board, and the administrator do not like that these things have come to light. In fact, it is my opinion that many in the board are very uninformed, based on information I have gleaned. 

There are many other things that will come to light, but one thing we must do is clean out the entire board of education, and start new. Two days ago I received a letter from the board that the illegal coaching was an oversight. It was mentioned-oversight 3 times for emphasis. The DA told the district to have the volunteer get his background check ASAP, which was evidently done. The board then just simply votes to accept, sweep under the rug, and move on. That is how it’s done north of highway 64. My question is this: how many other “oversights” are going on in the Crivitz School? They have proven that they will do what they want, and as long as you the voter keeps voting for them, it will stay exactly that way. Also, for additional information, please see: crivitzschooldistrict.com . The author offers another viewpoint. Stay tuned.

Why Sue These People?

The defendants in the 3 girls vs. Crivitz School District, Michael Dama, Kam Dama, and Sophia Dama, have made verbal claims that the families are after money. That could not be further from the truth We want justice for our kids. We want fair treatment for all. We want to put an end to bullying. We don’t want a last name to determine your punishment. We want transparency at the school board level. We want our school run by the board, not Pat Mans.

The other thing that has been thrown around is that this was a case of over protective parents fighting because their children got punished. I do fight for my kids, and that’s why they’re good kids. I don’t want people to hurt them unfairly. Here’s something for everyone to help put this into perspective. Did the school employee’s kid who got busted for dope, get the same kind of punishment as those girls? No! Did the kids who got caught smashing mailboxes get the same treatment as those girls? No! (A federal offense, by the way) How can anyone with a brain and a beating heart think this is fair treatment? What about the pictures from the locker room that have been on the internet by other students? What has been done? You get the picture. Stay tuned.